Losing It: Be Kind to Yourself

The first red leaves are emerging from the tree in our front yard, a hint of autumn approaching. It’s a new season and seasons are primarily about change.  I’m beginning to see there is an area I need to change in – so let’s get to it!  Fair warning- it’s about to get real.

I’ve gained some weight during my years fostering.  Not just a little weight.  A lot.     I know there were more than a few nights of eating cookies and milk with my husband while watching Netflix after a rough day.  And there were other days when I opted to sit on the bench and watch the kids play when I was just too physically exhausted to do anything more. Then there were those early mornings when I decided to sleep in instead of workout.  On top of that, there are some hormonal conditions at play.

So that being said, I’m losing it.   Not losing it, but losing this unhealthy weight that I’ve accumulated.  For months, I’ve delayed taking action.   I’ve put other projects  and other goals ahead of my health.   That’s changing.  I’m not starting some radical diet or training for a marathon.   I’m making lifestyle changes so I can live and love well.

I’ll be posting weekly updates on how I’m taking charge of my physical health as a part of my Losing It series.  This week I’m being kind to the one person I often forget- myself!

7 Ways I’m being Kind to Myself

  1.  Eat Grown up Food.  I don’t even like Goldfish.  Why am I putting them in my mouth?
  2.  Go to Bed.  Even if it’s just SO nice sitting quietly on the couch.   Or if I get a wild hair to organize a closet.  I’m going to mother myself and get the sleep I need.
  3. Move More. Catch with the kids.  Laps in the pool.  A walk to the park.  Any and everything counts.
  4. Get more protein.  I’ve always struggled to get enough protein in my diet.  I’m a bread and veggie girl.
  5. Smile in the Mirror.  My body does amazing things for me everyday.  I am generally healthy and able-bodied.   I don’t need a wheelchair or crutches or bottles of pills   That’s something to smile about!
  6. Drink Water.  Coffee is my friend.   And when it seems excessive to drink another cup of coffee, I resort to tea- iced and hot.   I don’t play favorites.   But this leaves me feeling like an icky prune at the end of the day.   So water is my new friend.
  7. Think Good Thoughts.  Okay, so maybe this seems a bit much.  But I can be pretty hard on myself.   If I wouldn’t think or say something about someone else, why would I treat myself that way.  It’s a no brainer.

I set a good example when I’m kind to myself.

Maybe you’re wondering….. Will I be able to finish a Pilates video this week without being interrupted?  Will I sneak out of the house early Saturday morning to walk 3 miles to have coffee at Panera?   Will I finally make that nagging doctor’s appointment I keep putting off?  Will I post pics?  Tune in next week and find out.


Fresh Air for Foster Parents

One morning I woke up and my tire was completely, impossibly flat.   My neighbor explained there must be a slow leak.  His skilled hands rubbed a little water and soap on the tire.  Then he cranked up the air compressor to identify where the air was escaping.  After a few minutes he identified the hole and plugged it up.

“You’re as good a new,” he said.

I was stunned.  What I thought would be a pricey new tire, was a simple, quick fix for a slow leak.

There were many times I felt as deflated as the tire on my van as a foster parent.   I thought the fix would be complex.   But over the years, I’ve learned that sometimes my problem is a slow leak that can be identified and plugged up.

I think everyone needs a neighbor like mine.  Someone who has learned a little and is willing to share what they know to take care of the flat and get you on the road.   While my mechanical expertise is limited, I do have a little experience fostering.   I’ve learned that recognizing and being aware of my feeling is key.   Sometimes, I just need to open my eyes and realize I need a little fresh air.

Everyone gets filled up in different ways.  How do you fill up when you’re feeling flat?  What’s you’re quick fix for a slow leak?